Why is Marriage "the Enemy" for Black Women?

This article is re-posted from Beyond Black & White.

This is sooooo true.  As a married woman of just 5 short years it is few and far between that I can find another Black woman who is in support of marriage.  Many Black women still go by this old mantra of the "strong Black, single woman."  Now I'm not saying that's not reality.  For many of Black women, including most of the women in my family, marriage is not yet accessible.  But that does not mean that black women should not aspire to be married.  Before I got married women were eager to tell me about the struggles of being single, but now that I'm married its like ladies are on a one-woman mission to prove to me that being single is where it's at.  Considering I've been a single-mom and had to put up the strong facade, I know that's simply not true...One of our sistahs at Beyond Black & White couldn't have said it better:

Many black women have come to despise the idea of marriage. And the kicker? MANY OF THESE WOMEN ARE NOT AND HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED. Taking a cue from our fable, how many people have heard black women lambasting love and relationships, but most especially marriage, despite never having had it like that themselves? o/ <<<< hand in the air This can be a painful area for single black women. Particularly those women who have quietly accepted a reality where they will never find love, let alone be married. So whenever someone starts talking about the positive aspects of marriage, it can be like nails on a freaking chalkboard. AAAAAAACK STOP IT! Ever wonder why these women get so mad? It’s because the topic of black women in loving relationships where they are married and thriving is like a dog and a dog whistle: You don’t hear what’s so bad or painful, but they do. Oh do they ever. And they will let you know.  Click here to keep reading.